And here’s a list of trans and NB media

This is a constantly updating list. Please send me recommendations.

Some youtubers:

Music/videos:

Webseries:

Herstory —6 really really good episodes about trans women, written and performed by trans women. Includes 1 lesbian love story. It’s compelling and touching and real and infuriating and awesome. Season 2 will be released in 2017 ahhh. (CN: T slur, transphobia, abuse)
Carmilla — I heard it’s good. I’m just watching it because Kaitlyn is in it playing a genderqueer character 😛 They don’t realise they are NB straight away, so you have to wait a bit.

Blogs:

Neutrois nonsense
butchwonders a mostly cis, gender non-conforming perspective
Butch Please, a genderqueer column
Sam Dylan Finch who writes about being queer, nb, and intersections with mental health
Schlomo Steel, about drag, and queer community, and castles in the shit
Alok Vaid-Menon
CN Lester, trans activist
Kasey Weird at Valprehension gender things and demisexual things
Genderfluent gender things and ace things
Raye at Genderawesome gender things
Jamie Ray at A Boy And Her Dog, on the border between butch and trans
Cassian, who also makes polyinpictures and runs an annual NB/GQ survey
Thingofthings link is to post that I liked a lot about being cis-by-default

Websites:

Beyond The Binary, which has lots of things including Agony Auncle written by CN Lester
We Happy Trans – A place for sharing positive trans* perspectives
To Survive On This Shore photographs and interviews of older transgender and gender-variant adults

Webcomics:

transgirlnextdoor
Rooster Tails and GCutie
my many favourites from Robot Hugs, who also writes about sexism and harassment
Assigned Male Comics
villainette a ridiculously beautiful watercolour comic by Scout Tran-Caffee about being a nonbinary transwoman
Portside Stories about a person uncovering their gender identity. I inhaled the entire thing in an hour and cried a lot. Was an emotional time. Also read Goodbye to Halos by the same person. Good lord. *cries*.
Rock and Riot a 50’s comic with queer characters that is very rad
Kimchi Cuddles polyamory, queer and genderqueer stuff

Games/Art/ Weird stuff:

Porpentine I don’t know how to explain this. Go play her stuff, especially With Those We Love Alive

Spoken word:

here’s a list of NB spoken word poets,
Bex Kwan NB poet of Singaporean origin
Ivan E. Coyote and Rae Spoon, the last is a performance of the last part of the book Gender Failure

Short stories:

A Fist of Permutations in Lightning and Wildflowers by Alyssa Wong. This was amazingly beautiful. Everything Alyssa writes leaves me breathless. (As far as I know, Alyssa is not trans. CN: suicide)
If Harry Potter was a trans girl, as far as I know, this writer is not trans either, but it’s good. (Not trans-related but social justice related: I also really liked their series in defense of the Hogwarts ladies, and if Harry Potter was a squib)

Books (links are to Goodreads reviews; I got most of these on bookdepo, and will lend them to you if you happen to live nearby):

Gender Failure by Ivan E. Coyote and Rae Spoon, on the AFAB NB experience. I loved it
Tomboy Survival Guide by Ivan E. Coyote
Anything else written by Ivan, really.
The Nearest Exit May Be Behind You by S. Bear Bergman, also on the transmasculine experience
Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation edited by Kate Bornstein and S. Bear Bergman, a collection of essays from trans writers. My favourite book ever
Hello Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws by Kate Bornstein
My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely by Kate Bornstein. Here’s a pdf of the introduction.
Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity by Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore about the intersections of identity
Assuming a Body : Transgender and Rhetorics of Materiality by Gayle Salamon. This is too academic for my interests, just putting it here in case that’s what you are into
The Gender Book a very comprehensive gender101 that you can get on a pay as you can basis

Some random Mainstream Media (TM) articles:

Resources for the Confused Cis:

Pronouns stuff:

Resources for the questioning Maybe-Not-Cis, other than everything above:

Resources for the Not-Cis in Crisis, other than everything above:

Trans Lifeline there’s a US and a Canada number. I imagine it is possible to Skype phone.
There are some things I need to tell you.
25 Things I Do To Make My Body Dysphoria Feel Smaller and Quieter
If you only read one thing, read Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation

Misc. Articles I want to link to but have no heading for:

Some introductory intersex resources because there’s quite significant overlap in our communities:

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